On sharing spaces and being in community with others

I was talking with a close friend tonight. We both volunteered at the same queer youth organization. Its motto is Fearlessly Be Yourself!

Of course the motto is apt - nobody (human) wants young people living in fear of violence, rejection, harassment, or any of the other crap flung at queer youth.

But we both encountered a problem with how the motto was sometimes interpreted. Sometimes people at the organization would do something against the house norms, and their defense would sound something like this: "What's the problem? I'm just fearlessly being myself!" There was generally a defiant note to it.